memory: one search across facts, raw history and sketches ...

Compression removes messages from the model's window, not from the
conversation: every compression path now writes the turns it demotes into
`memory_chunks` — verbatim, append-only, with the turn range, timestamps and
breadcrumb keys (the summarizer's `KEYS:` line plus a deterministic extractor,
which also covers the hard-truncate fallback that never sees a summarizer).

`memory_search` is the single read path over the three stores: curated facts
first, then raw excerpts by relevance, then the current session's sketches.
Every hit carries provenance (source, session, turn range, timestamp), and a
raw excerpt that a newer curated fact overrides is labelled outdated rather
than hidden — "we changed our mind, the old value was X" is often the
question. The agent also gets up to two relevant excerpts injected per turn
once the context holds a summary, deduped across turns.

Fixes found by running the pilot against a real database:
- `search_facts` returns ISO-string timestamps while chunks return datetimes;
  the freshness comparison raised TypeError and took the whole search down.
- an existing `memory_chunks` table created without pgvector never gained the
  `embedding` column (CREATE TABLE IF NOT EXISTS does not alter), and the
  INSERT failed on it; the DDL now adds the column, and a database without
  pgvector writes text-only rows found through FTS.

memory: a fact written under a new spelling of its key merges into the one that survives ...

The extractor invents a key every time it meets the same fact — `language`,
`preferred_language`, `ui_language` — and the upsert keys on the exact string, so
the base grew several spellings of each durable fact. On prod, 24 facts across 11
clusters share a key once noise prefixes are dropped, 10 of them under the exact
same value.

upsert_fact(dedupe=True) now compares the *tokens* of the normalized key — set
equality, not overlap, and never the value: `ui_language` and `language` are one
key while `dark` and `dark_ui` are two. The row already holding the writer's exact
key wins; otherwise the incoming one does. Losers are marked, not deleted: each
keeps its key and its value and gains `merged_into`, so the merge is reversible
with one UPDATE. Off by default, so the memory tool still writes exactly the row
it asked for.

Every read path filters `merged_into IS NULL`, and the mark is reachable only
where it is meant to be — get_all_facts/fact_count gained include_merged, and
GET /admin/memory?include_merged=true exposes it. search_facts deliberately has
no such flag: the injection path must not be able to see a hidden row. Forgetting
a key drops its hidden aliases first, so none is left pointing at nothing.

Three fixes that fell out of the same read:

- expires_at was overwritten with EXCLUDED.expires_at on every upsert, and the
  extractor always passes None — so it silently cleared any expiry the agent had
  set. Both DO UPDATE clauses now COALESCE.
- The ILIKE fallback was the one read path that served expired facts.
- The `list` action promised "all stored facts" and returned categories. The code
  was right and the description was wrong; the description now says so.

The extraction prompt stopped allowing infrastructure — servers, hosts, addresses,
running services — while the agent and the planner already forbade it; that
loophole is where 423 technical facts came from. It also forbids secrets outright,
and asks for stable snake_case keys. Expiry is now documented as being for facts
with a known end, not for facts you merely doubt.

Facts reach the prompt with their age ("updated 34d ago") alongside confidence:
nothing expires on a clock, so the injection says how old a fact is and lets the
agent weigh it.